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Post by cherryonion on Mar 4, 2008 10:30:57 GMT 7
For those who haven't been in love before... I just wanted to point out that life does not stop and end when you're with someone, when you're in love with them. I hope I make my point clearly...
I've been in a relationship for 4 years, plan on getting married etc. But my life does not revolve around being in a relationship, it only compliments my life. I still do what I want to do, like work interstate when i get the opportunity, go work overseas etc. I try not to make too many restrictions on my life just because I'm in a relationship.. you don't want to regret missed opportunities in your life...
It just annoys me when people completely change when they get in a relationship, stop seeing their friends, stop living their life to the fullest. At the same time, others think that once they fall in love and have it returned, that all their problems will be solved.
My point is... the best thing in life is to be happy with who you are and not just who you are with. You can be extremely happy being single and whilst you could also feel miserable in a relationship (whether you are in love or not).
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Post by twilightmind on Mar 7, 2008 6:18:59 GMT 7
Well said cherryonion... Top advice  |
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Post by explosionsinthesky on Mar 7, 2008 10:38:24 GMT 7
For those who haven't been in love before... I just wanted to point out that life does not stop and end when you're with someone, when you're in love with them. I hope I make my point clearly... I've been in a relationship for 4 years, plan on getting married etc. But my life does not revolve around being in a relationship, it only compliments my life. I still do what I want to do, like work interstate when i get the opportunity, go work overseas etc. I try not to make too many restrictions on my life just because I'm in a relationship.. you don't want to regret missed opportunities in your life... It just annoys me when people completely change when they get in a relationship, stop seeing their friends, stop living their life to the fullest. At the same time, others think that once they fall in love and have it returned, that all their problems will be solved. My point is... the best thing in life is to be happy with who you are and not just who you are with. You can be extremely happy being single and whilst you could also feel miserable in a relationship (whether you are in love or not). Very well said. I couldn't agree more. The main point I agree with most is being happy with who you are and not just who you are with. Some days, I find myself to be of the opinion that the worst idea human beings ever had was to make two "individuals" get together and make it work. In my mind, someones always going to lose. A part of you and a part of them is going to have to experience sacrifice. The most thrilling part of love to me however is just that, the sacrifice. For me it's always been about embracing the parts you like and the parts you don't like about a person. I think independance is important. I'm a man who enjoys solitude and loneliness. From a creative standpoint I need that space so I can create. So for me, that's a big part of me that someone has to embrace. To understand and encourge it. Trust is also important. I find a lot of the time, people in love are suffocating each other more then they think. To some, it's an issue of control. I want to love somebody but I don't want to suffocate them with it. Which is why I believe in "space" being the most important third party in a relationship. Love in my mind is not an easy emotion to decide on. The girl I'm currently in love with is seeing a man, she is not in love with. Something she tells me all the time. I could just say something to her and let my feelings be known, but both of us are so aware of how real our love is that it scares us. Being "truly" in love sometimes is about being scared, because when you've found that "real" connection sometimes it scares you. Love is never simple. If you love something, set it free, if you really love something, don't fuck it up. Dan xo |
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Post by AlmostOz on Mar 10, 2008 18:34:00 GMT 7
been a long time between drinks since ive visited this section
After taking the plunge and getting engaged (one of the best things i've ever done) I've found that I actually get to see my friends more than when we were just girlfriend and boyfriend. Mostly because now we live together we see each other a lot more, get a lot more quality time. So now i get to maxmise my time with my fiance and with my friends. It's a very exciting time for me.
You know you like someone when you feel all fuzzy inside
You know your in love when you can't focus on much else during your day except think about the next day you get to see your sunshine.
You know your crazy when even though you see them everyday they still make you smile and feel good inside, even when they are arguing with you about some stupid point that doesn't matter
And it still amazes me after 6 years I love her more and more every single day, Im hoping it never stops.
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Post by zerorawk on Mar 14, 2008 18:29:24 GMT 7
Hmm... this is a tricky one, I suppose. Especially since I'm not so sure if I've actually experienced 'true love'. I mean, I think I have... but I'm not 100% sure deep in my heart. I suppose you know you're in love when you find yourself getting highly emotional. It's probably chemical (like most of that emotional stuff)... but whenever I feel strong feelings about someone then I feel strong emotionally. For example... if I hate someone I'm usually very angry or if I'm in love with someone it feels like I've had a few dozen happy pills and I'm in a really good mood. Hope that's not too mind-boggling, but it's kind of hard to explain it. I dunno. All I know is that it's usually different for everyone. After all, isn't that what individualism is all about? Uniqueness? Yeah, I'll stfu before I hop onto MySpace and start blogging about it like I usually do around this time.  |
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Post by sexberrie on Mar 25, 2008 17:30:02 GMT 7
Heh i know i wouldn't seem like i'd have much light to shed on this but you'd be surprised.
The only thing i know about love is that it makes you weak. You can be in love, and then love that person no matter what, and that is where the issue lies. You'll do anything for them, and let them do anything to you. Then when it all finally gets too much and you break out of it, it's like you've just woken up and you hate the person you let yourself be, and the person you loved. I have a feeling thats not love though. I have a feeling that might be control and abuse. At least i hope it is, cause if it is love then i really don't want to experience anything like it ever again.
Theres a negative light on the whole experience.
Pumpkins in less than fourty eight hours.
I'm excited:)
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Post by Tragic Ether on Mar 25, 2008 17:54:52 GMT 7
woah - berry - you sound like youve been burnt BAD!
I know what you mean though. Love is Trust.
Trust that you can allow yourself to open up to someone that you trust will open up to you as much. The love you give should be equal to the love you recieve.
If its not - then something needs to be done - fix the relationship - or end it.
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Post by sexberrie on Mar 25, 2008 17:58:37 GMT 7
lol yeh everyone gets burnt eventually though
just happened earlier than usual for me
hopefully that means i got it out of the road (Y)
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Post by boelsen on Mar 26, 2008 7:10:02 GMT 7
wow. i hadnt even heard of those emotions when i was 16. what an adventurous youth i had |
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Post by *Shard of Glass* on Mar 26, 2008 19:02:05 GMT 7
I've learned a lot in the last few months about this kinda thing.
I'm better at seeing (and being able to find) whats real, and whats not. So that makes me feel pretty good right now!!!
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Post by blue_june_destroyer on Apr 8, 2008 21:25:37 GMT 7
The only thing i know about love is that it makes you weak. You can be in love, and then love that person no matter what, and that is where the issue lies. You'll do anything for them, and let them do anything to you. Then when it all finally gets too much and you break out of it, it's like you've just woken up and you hate the person you let yourself be, and the person you loved. I have a feeling thats not love though. I have a feeling that might be control and abuse. At least i hope it is, cause if it is love then i really don't want to experience anything like it ever again. Give yourself some time there, Sarah! That isn't love - that's lust and wanting to be the someone that another person wants you to be just so you can be their number one. Real love is being yourself and accepting who you are and that your significant other loves you for being who you are! Love is understanding and trust and never going to bed angry or having stupid angry arguments about insignificant things. Most importantly, love is communication and without communication, there is no love. Open and honest lines of communication are vital for a healthy relationship. Love is never feeling guilty or lying to your partner... they read you like a book and you read them exactly the same. I think it's very easy to confuse love with lust as a teenager/young adult but once it hits you and you meet the person you know you're going to spend the rest of your life with, it's amazingly clear.  |
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Post by sexberrie on Apr 9, 2008 13:13:02 GMT 7
thankyou. |
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Post by boelsen on Apr 11, 2008 19:20:30 GMT 7
The only thing i know about love is that it makes you weak. You can be in love, and then love that person no matter what, and that is where the issue lies. You'll do anything for them, and let them do anything to you. Then when it all finally gets too much and you break out of it, it's like you've just woken up and you hate the person you let yourself be, and the person you loved. I have a feeling thats not love though. I have a feeling that might be control and abuse. At least i hope it is, cause if it is love then i really don't want to experience anything like it ever again. I think it's very easy to confuse love with lust as a teenager/young adult but once it hits you and you meet the person you know you're going to spend the rest of your life with, it's amazingly clear. its clear cos the sex is even better yeah? |
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Post by blue_june_destroyer on Apr 12, 2008 9:03:13 GMT 7
SCOTTY!
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Post by sexberrie on Apr 12, 2008 18:06:47 GMT 7
Yes scotty
how dare you taint my pure and innocent sixteen year old mind!
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Post by boelsen on Apr 13, 2008 16:10:16 GMT 7
good to see it wasnt toooooo corrupted on tour |
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Post by smashington on Nov 2, 2009 20:26:32 GMT 7
i dont know much, but i do know what love is. i love my boyfriend more than anything... and besides feeling engulfed in safety, security, warmth, great sex, euphoria (see what i did there? lol).. i think it is just being COMPLETELY honest - open - trusting with your partener. literally trusting someone else with your heart, deepest secrets and your life. you will find that if you are in love, that person makes up who you are. you meet someone, think they're awesome and cool, hang out - whatever - and soon you will realise you have moulded each others lives, values, ideas.. your lives will grow together. if they don't, maybe its not right? i can see now, two years into our relationship, that when i "loved" chris before we were going out (this is when i was 14...) it was just infatuation, lust.. i did love him in a way, he was my best friend, but once we were actually in a relationship, and now, i can see its completely different. I've been studying for final year 12 exams, and being used to seeing chris every day for two years (at school) the past week has been a struggle to be away from him! and this morning before our first exam we got together for a while and hung out, and it felt so good and just made me happy, just to see him, just to see him smile, after all these years. That's what love is, feeling that everything is right in the world because they are by your side. p.s. I blitzed the exam |
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Post by de-tec-tive on Nov 3, 2009 17:33:54 GMT 7
when you say goodbye to them, and your day doesn't feel complete until you have them again next to you. wow, totally agree there. i think someone else already said it, but you just know when you are... i don't know how else to explain it. i just know i've found the one. |
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