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Post by .honeyspider. on Mar 16, 2004 14:00:49 GMT 7
just wondering............
thoughts?
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Post by PaRkA on Mar 16, 2004 20:14:36 GMT 7
how do you know?
when you lose it you know....
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Post by janeymonsta on Mar 16, 2004 22:02:15 GMT 7
i am probaby really NOT the person to answer this.
but i think you just KNOW. or at least, you think you know, and that probably means its happened. but then if u think about it too often you could get confused and think u know when really u just want it....
oh i dont know!!!!!
its so different to loving someone.
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Post by AlmostOz on Mar 17, 2004 6:33:18 GMT 7
very true
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Post by anti on Mar 17, 2004 7:17:21 GMT 7
your wallet seems awfully empty of late
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Post by toolgasm on Mar 17, 2004 7:39:13 GMT 7
your wallet seems awfully empty of late lol, good one Shaun ;D ...you start thinking about the person every minute of every day, wondering what they're doing?
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Post by .honeyspider. on Mar 17, 2004 11:20:55 GMT 7
lol, good one Shaun ;D ...you start thinking about the person every minute of every day, wondering what they're doing? i must be in love then haha my phone bill is huge right now.. and my mind an utter mess..but a nice mess, of thoughts of only one person! anyway, yes that is definately one thing that constitutes love.. however it also could be lust.. or just a lot of care for someone... this is why im confused.. grr... damn u confusing love. hang on love shouldnt be confusing right? oh i dont know. p.s. nice pic janeymosta!
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Post by stumbleine on Mar 17, 2004 11:43:58 GMT 7
I think you know deep down in your gut, more of an instinct than anything else.
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Post by sunky on Mar 18, 2004 9:31:54 GMT 7
when you say goodbye to them, and your day doesn't feel complete until you have them again next to you.
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Post by .honeyspider. on Mar 18, 2004 13:22:29 GMT 7
when you say goodbye to them, and your day doesn't feel complete until you have them again next to you. yes.. good one sunky i totally agree with that one
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Post by Cygnet on Mar 18, 2004 15:00:46 GMT 7
I'm a sad case when it comes to this. I don't think I've ever been in love.. well maybe once but I totally let it slip. While I was in that period though, she was all I could think about. Or was that just infatuation??? I don't know if I can even tell the difference, because if I can't define love, then I can't draw that line.
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Post by trev on Mar 19, 2004 14:08:30 GMT 7
I'm a sad case when it comes to this. I don't think I've ever been in love.. well maybe once but I totally let it slip. While I was in that period though, she was all I could think about. Or was that just infatuation??? I don't know if I can even tell the difference, because if I can't define love, then I can't draw that line. I so agree with you there. It's so hard to tell the difference between obsession, love, infatuation, are they different? can you be more than one at the same time? does it change between the three (well there's more emotions of course, but they are just examples) it all makes me think that i haven't experienced love to it's highest capacity yet...i know i love people, and have loved people, but that's not IN LOVE[/b]. I guess i think that there must be more to this feeling than what i've experienced so far. i mean it's been great, but i'd hate to think that i've experienced love in it's highest form. Which gives me a gut feeling that i've never been truley in love....cause otherwise i wouldn't be hoping for more...would i? or does that just make me selfish and greedy? I hate not having the answers to something....
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Post by .honeyspider. on Mar 19, 2004 14:17:08 GMT 7
well maybe trevor, but you cant go through your whole life wanting more... (well u can, but i mean getting to a point where u are never going to find it because u dont even know what it is u want, or what u already have)
maybe u will get more each time and you'll just be one of those people who says "no it cant be enough.. i want more.." and so on.. or maybe u wont.. either way yeah i hope u find what u are looking for..
it just worries me in a general sense that people keep looking for "more" and miss out on something amazing in hope of finding more.. then they find the "more" in some random person and the same thing happens again and they keep going.. they never are satisfied.. it makes me wonder if these kind of people are ever really happy in the end. do they just eventually give up and sit with the person who they have been the "most" compatible with" at the time of realisation or do they end up alone because the people who they "loved" but didnt love "enough" eventually give up waiting for them?
anyway i dont think thats u.. well i hope it isnt.. so yes. you'll be fine. u know how i feel about it anyway.
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Post by AlmostOz on Mar 22, 2004 7:38:33 GMT 7
"self improvement is masturbation"
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Post by Cygnet on Mar 22, 2004 19:50:56 GMT 7
it all makes me think that i haven't experienced love to it's highest capacity yet...i know i love people, and have loved people, but that's not IN LOVE[/b]. I guess i think that there must be more to this feeling than what i've experienced so far. i mean it's been great, but i'd hate to think that i've experienced love in it's highest form. Which gives me a gut feeling that i've never been truley in love....cause otherwise i wouldn't be hoping for more...would i? or does that just make me selfish and greedy? I hate not having the answers to something....[/quote] I think that if you had felt love in its highest form, and knew that you had felt it in its highest form, then you would be consantly depressed by the fact that you knew that you would never feel a deeper, more powerful kind of love. It's human nature to always strive for perfection, even when you know that it can never be reached and shouldn't be reached, but as long as you can feel that there is something more to life, then there is always a feeling of hope, and that maybe someday you will reach that higher level of purity, but even if you do, you will still be searching for something more, which is good, cause if you weren't, then you would go insane. [glow=red,2,300]REAL LOVE? PURE BLISS? WHAT IS THE CAUSE OF OUR SUFFERING? WHAT IS THE CAUSE OF OUR HOPE?[/glow]
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Post by AlmostOz on Mar 24, 2004 7:36:54 GMT 7
i came up with a new one.
Love is when you are out with your best friends. Usually youd be having the time of your life, but now all you can think of is this person, and jokes and things you do only seem to be half as fun as they used to be, because you know that youd be having more fun doing nothing with this person than being out with your friends being silly.
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Post by .honeyspider. on Mar 25, 2004 13:25:34 GMT 7
when u can spend mindless hours just staring at each other thinking... "awwwwwwwwww", and then when u actually try to talk, babble comes out instead of words.. but they understood exactly what u were trying to say hehe ;D
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Post by Magdelena on Mar 28, 2004 22:59:48 GMT 7
I think its simple to tell....you get jealous....when there not with you, you get worried which other guy is having a crack....its like youve bought something...and no other person on the planet can touch it. Ive been with my girl for about 3 months now, weve told each other that we love each other, and every time i cant see her i get scared....love is when you cant let go, think of them all the time, want to be in physical contact with them every second, love is when you cant say goodbye....love is simple. Rate it by your anxiety. The more the concern, the bigger your heart for them.
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Post by trev on Mar 29, 2004 16:42:36 GMT 7
I think its simple to tell....you get jealous....when there not with you, you get worried which other guy is having a crack....its like youve bought something...and no other person on the planet can touch it. Ive been with my girl for about 3 months now, weve told each other that we love each other, and every time i cant see her i get scared....love is when you cant let go, think of them all the time, want to be in physical contact with them every second, love is when you cant say goodbye....love is simple. Rate it by your anxiety. The more the concern, the bigger your heart for them. i don't want you to take offence to this or anything, i don't really know you so i'm just going by what you said... Some of what you said could be more to do with personal insecurities/issues rather than love itself, meaning you can feel what you said for someone both in and out of love....That's what makes love so hard to define, it affects so many other thoughts and emotions.
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Post by Cygnet on Mar 29, 2004 18:33:54 GMT 7
that also raises the whole infatuation debate and as I said before, I don't know if I've ever really been in love, but I kow that some of the times I've liked people, and still felt those feelings of jealousy and known that It's not love so??
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Post by thatpumpkinschic on Mar 29, 2004 18:48:36 GMT 7
yeah, i definitely agree with trev. loving someone isn't how much you worry about them and what they're doing when they're not with you.
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Post by AlmostOz on Mar 30, 2004 10:04:37 GMT 7
id have to agree with trev on that. i trust my gf completely and never worry about her doing anything bad by me. she feels the same way too.
although 3 months is a lot different to 2 years.
love like many things, is best done with the head. leave simple tasks for simple things.
"love is when you hire a movie out and don't see much of it because you can't concentrate"
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Post by PaRkA on Mar 30, 2004 18:08:19 GMT 7
love is all about complete trust, not worrying about what their doing, you know that when you are apart their first and only thought is about you, when they become exposed to a situation which may pose a problem you know that they arent goin to cross any lines, or do anything stupid, its about being able to be yourself 100% of the time with them, without them.
i used to be like that mike always worrying and in the end it proved to be counter-productive, in the end it was up to me to just be comfortable in the fact that i could trust her 100% completely and any thing that said otherwise in my head was quickly put to death, i can tell you its alot easier on both parties when there is complete honesty, and our relationship is shitloads better for it...
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Post by PaRkA on Mar 30, 2004 18:18:36 GMT 7
Love is beauty, when its real, it is the most true, inspiring, and meaningful thing you will ever know. It is sad that so many other things are so often mistaken for love. It is not any manifestation of a physical attraction for someone, it is, in fact, entirely separate from any sort of physical attraction or need. Nor is love a crush magnified a hundred times, even a million, rather, it is a feeling, a truth, and a state of mind all unto itself. The essence of love comes from a completely different part of yourself than any other emotion in the world. It is the ability to see a person’s inner beauty as it comes pouring out of their eyes and their every word, in their laugh and in their tears, deep inside the angel that they are to you. It is the realisation that you are never truly alone even when you seem to be. It is hearing them in your favourite song, feeling them in the softest sleeps, and seeing them in the most gorgeous sunsets. It is the appreciation of everything they are, even in their flaws you see the every unique beauty that makes them the person you know you want to spend the rest of your life with. It is growing and finding who you really are when you look deep inside to the one you care about and see who they really are….and you can only hope that you will ever be able to bring such light into their lives one day. It is connection, not dependence, you feel them beside you at every moment through each lovely memory you will never forget as long as you live, but nothing matters more than their happiness… even if that means you must go without them. It is their beauty, true beauty which only you could ever so deeply appreciate, and it will be with you always, from every star in a warm night sky to the coldest and loneliest of winters…you’ll see it there, and you will feel it in your heart with every breathe.
And still even after you may find yourself with only the choice of letting go and looking for another, love, in its life altering and enriching power, is eternal…a strength and wisdom you shall never lose. For from its first and ethereal blossom, to its pained and tear-soaked heartbreak, to its joyous finding of another angel to yet light your heart anew.
Love is beauty And Love is forever
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Post by thatpumpkinschic on Mar 30, 2004 18:35:15 GMT 7
i've been following this thread since the start, but haven't contributed, because i wasn't sure how i could put it into words. parka's hit the nail on the head perfectly. put it so eloquently and beautifully.
in my opinion, love isn't being unable to watch a movie with them beside you. love isn't about consciously thinking about them every moment of your day. i think celloguy is right, infatuation is so easily mistaken for love.
i was listening to "forever may not be long enough" this morning by live. it's a beautiful song, and as the title suggests, ed is talking about forever not being long enough for him and his love. i think when you cherish the idea of growing old with a person, it's love, but then the thought of dying at 90 years old, and being without them at death... makes you a bit sad.
"forever may not be long enough my love"
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Post by trev on Mar 31, 2004 13:07:28 GMT 7
I agree 100% with cerebro Well said.
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Post by AlmostOz on Apr 1, 2004 6:50:34 GMT 7
they played that to me and my girlfriend when we went to the concert in december ;D
Parka - thats awesome, im emailing it to my girlfriend.
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Post by Tristessa on Apr 1, 2004 8:23:10 GMT 7
well said Cerebro
And i agree with Trev. Being in Love does no encompass any negative feelings, thoughts etc. Being in Love erases all that and thats why you feel so bloody good. Thats why we should never take any kind of love for granted
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Post by .honeyspider. on Apr 5, 2004 11:45:03 GMT 7
Some of what you said could be more to do with personal insecurities/issues rather than love itself, meaning you can feel what you said for someone both in and out of love....That's what makes love so hard to define, it affects so many other thoughts and emotions. so true dear i think we know that one first hand.. when i was with u, alot of the feeling at first was due to personal insecurities/issues.. and thankfully you've helped me start to get over them.. of course i do love u now.. you're my best friend!.. but yeah, falling so "quickly" for u was very much due to other factors.. and its not so hard now to realise that it probably wasnt "love" yet at the point i thought it was. it was more an infatuation.. then love down the track.. but it still felt very strong, so its easy to see why it confused by so many people. yup. xxx
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Post by PaRkA on Apr 13, 2004 18:57:55 GMT 7
just to put a spin on this, the relationship im in at the moment is starting to... well show signs of failing, now i have been with this girl for 8 months + and have strong feelings for her, but i feel that i am no longer the light in her eyes, i no longer can make her smile when i see her for the first time in awhile, we dont seem to connect, our phone conversations have gone from hours to minutes, everytime i try to bring it up with her, she dismisses it as nothing and leaves it at that...
i really dont want to break up with her, but i feel we will become more distan and in the end it will make things messy, which is something i dont want to be part of...
tomorrow im goin to break up with her, or have a break which is really what i dont want to do (leaving it up in the air)...
i just thought i would show another side...
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