Post by AlmostOz on May 3, 2003 7:06:06 GMT 7
i started off writing in a different thread, but it became off that topic so im just going to write in here for anyone who feels like reading it
if you do read it reply i want to know what people think
People Find It Easy To Cheat:
Its Because A persons Reality is primarily where they are in space at that point in time.
an example : we all know there are starving children in ethiopia, but during the course of our day we don't think about it, and when we do think about it, its really hard to fathom, so we forget it and move on.
ive been cheated on, but never cheated.
When you are about to cheat, id guess that you are in a reality where you know you are being bad, but this person is here right here right now, and the other one isn't, so who cares? you get off right.
some people value love a lot more than others.
i listen to stand inside your love, and think wow.
my girlfriend read the lyrics to it once, and said thats a really scary song.
Why do people feel so bad when they are cheated on?
its just one of a thousand ways a relationship can end.
Your pretty much trying to find that person who you can spend the rest of your life with. Each time you think youve found them, but when it ends you realise it might not have worked anyway.
heres a theory from my friend
"ok, heres the start of this theory i made up
i think...that when you spend lots of time and effort and love on someone
your making an investment
your investing in them, and some people are stable as rocksand you know that you can put as much love and time and efort into them and you know that you arent going to make a loss
but some people areunstable, and you are taking a gamble on them
and my whole life ive been learning which people to back away from and which people to invest in, coz if i put all my investments in the wrong person i could go bankrupt and never want to invest in anyone again
well, i think you should think about who you are investing everyting in, without thinking of a backup plan or thinking about how badly you could loose"
Do people feel bad because they feel inadequate when they are cheated on?
I just take it as disrespectful and the person isn't obviously worth my time anymore. They aren't worth hurting over. Be EXCITED THAT YOU ARE SINGLE
its a time to give yourself the love youve been neglecting because youve been giving it to someone else. PRetend like your going to hook up heaps, even tho you probably won't. The reality you are in is the one you create/distort
Sure its sad that its over, but just think of the good times you had, and think of who you would have been if you didn't go out with that person.
first girlfriend made me appreiciate the life i had.
second one i learnt to be more active as in exercise, and learnt a lot mentally about relationships
im glad she cheated on me..
she also taught me to eat chinese.
the third one has taught me so much, i love her heaps, and shes taught me how to keep my room tidy.
Heres something ive learnt that keeps the peace in a relationship:
Whenever you get mad or angry, turn it into something positive: go for a run swim bike ride gym punch a boxing bag...... the ideas are endless.
Trust me, i sure am fitter than i used to be
and ive been with my girlfriend close to a year, and NEVER had a fight. This isn't because i constantly compromise with her either. Shes my darling
i think i should start my own thread......
Men are from Mars, Women Are From Venus is an amazing book. read it. it blew me out of the water. chicks think way different to guys and in some ways we speak a different language.
This is from Magician By Raymond E Feist
"There are many ways to love someone. Sometimes we want love so much, we are not too choosy about who we love. Other times we make love such a pure and noble thing, no poor human can ever meet our vision. But for the most part, love is a recognition, an opportunity to say, 'There is something about you i cherish' It doesn't entail marriage, or even physical love. THere's love of parents, love of city or nation, love of life, and love of people. All different, all love."
I like that quote.
Heres the poem i wrote when i got cheated on:
"Cheat"
Why do you play your five aces?
They are not supposed to be used,
It is not fair on me,
I folded for you
You supposedly played
You are away,
And I can't find the truth,
What to do?
Away far
I was thinking of you
Home
Not homesick
But yousick
I folded my aces, far away
But you
Supposedly you used them
It hurts;
No light at the end of the tunnel
Please bring a spade
It is hard to dig with fingers
Please come,
Tell me,
You may have a
Good hand,
But I hope you will fold.
By Nick Guest.
just a hint, you can' have five aces in a game of cards.... not many people click with that.
i always have so much to say. i love love for some reason, and thats why i love the pumpkins so much i think, a lot of the songs deal with relationships and love. " Pull your crooked teeth, youll be perfect just like me"
ill be back maybe il add to this. it can be a journal maybe i dunno
nick
if you do read it reply i want to know what people think
People Find It Easy To Cheat:
Its Because A persons Reality is primarily where they are in space at that point in time.
an example : we all know there are starving children in ethiopia, but during the course of our day we don't think about it, and when we do think about it, its really hard to fathom, so we forget it and move on.
ive been cheated on, but never cheated.
When you are about to cheat, id guess that you are in a reality where you know you are being bad, but this person is here right here right now, and the other one isn't, so who cares? you get off right.
some people value love a lot more than others.
i listen to stand inside your love, and think wow.
my girlfriend read the lyrics to it once, and said thats a really scary song.
Why do people feel so bad when they are cheated on?
its just one of a thousand ways a relationship can end.
Your pretty much trying to find that person who you can spend the rest of your life with. Each time you think youve found them, but when it ends you realise it might not have worked anyway.
heres a theory from my friend
"ok, heres the start of this theory i made up
i think...that when you spend lots of time and effort and love on someone
your making an investment
your investing in them, and some people are stable as rocksand you know that you can put as much love and time and efort into them and you know that you arent going to make a loss
but some people areunstable, and you are taking a gamble on them
and my whole life ive been learning which people to back away from and which people to invest in, coz if i put all my investments in the wrong person i could go bankrupt and never want to invest in anyone again
well, i think you should think about who you are investing everyting in, without thinking of a backup plan or thinking about how badly you could loose"
Do people feel bad because they feel inadequate when they are cheated on?
I just take it as disrespectful and the person isn't obviously worth my time anymore. They aren't worth hurting over. Be EXCITED THAT YOU ARE SINGLE
its a time to give yourself the love youve been neglecting because youve been giving it to someone else. PRetend like your going to hook up heaps, even tho you probably won't. The reality you are in is the one you create/distort
Sure its sad that its over, but just think of the good times you had, and think of who you would have been if you didn't go out with that person.
first girlfriend made me appreiciate the life i had.
second one i learnt to be more active as in exercise, and learnt a lot mentally about relationships
im glad she cheated on me..
she also taught me to eat chinese.
the third one has taught me so much, i love her heaps, and shes taught me how to keep my room tidy.
Heres something ive learnt that keeps the peace in a relationship:
Whenever you get mad or angry, turn it into something positive: go for a run swim bike ride gym punch a boxing bag...... the ideas are endless.
Trust me, i sure am fitter than i used to be
and ive been with my girlfriend close to a year, and NEVER had a fight. This isn't because i constantly compromise with her either. Shes my darlingi think i should start my own thread......
Men are from Mars, Women Are From Venus is an amazing book. read it. it blew me out of the water. chicks think way different to guys and in some ways we speak a different language.
This is from Magician By Raymond E Feist
"There are many ways to love someone. Sometimes we want love so much, we are not too choosy about who we love. Other times we make love such a pure and noble thing, no poor human can ever meet our vision. But for the most part, love is a recognition, an opportunity to say, 'There is something about you i cherish' It doesn't entail marriage, or even physical love. THere's love of parents, love of city or nation, love of life, and love of people. All different, all love."
I like that quote.
Heres the poem i wrote when i got cheated on:
"Cheat"
Why do you play your five aces?
They are not supposed to be used,
It is not fair on me,
I folded for you
You supposedly played
You are away,
And I can't find the truth,
What to do?
Away far
I was thinking of you
Home
Not homesick
But yousick
I folded my aces, far away
But you
Supposedly you used them
It hurts;
No light at the end of the tunnel
Please bring a spade
It is hard to dig with fingers
Please come,
Tell me,
You may have a
Good hand,
But I hope you will fold.
By Nick Guest.
just a hint, you can' have five aces in a game of cards.... not many people click with that.
i always have so much to say. i love love for some reason, and thats why i love the pumpkins so much i think, a lot of the songs deal with relationships and love. " Pull your crooked teeth, youll be perfect just like me"
ill be back maybe il add to this. it can be a journal maybe i dunno
nick
1 year's not bad.
