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Post by nitrousovercast on Aug 8, 2003 17:16:58 GMT 7
...that the worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them?
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Post by blue_june_destroyer on Aug 9, 2003 13:01:58 GMT 7
*shrugs*
i don't really know.. it's been so long that i ahd to deal with something like that so I'm not sure how it feels...
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kiwi
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Post by kiwi on Aug 9, 2003 18:17:11 GMT 7
I'm in the situation where she is a long way away, and I could be with her and be in love with her, but I can't because of my job  |
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Post by sunkissed on Aug 9, 2003 18:40:21 GMT 7
meh , that would smell..
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kiwi
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Post by kiwi on Aug 9, 2003 19:25:38 GMT 7
Mmmmhmmm. Check your email btw  |
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Post by Carlie on Aug 10, 2003 10:51:29 GMT 7
hmmm... ive heard that quote b4. I dont know if i totally agree with it or not though!  |
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Post by nitrousovercast on Aug 11, 2003 17:56:01 GMT 7
ehh
just thought I'd throw that out there.
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Post by Cygnet on Aug 14, 2003 18:42:30 GMT 7
...that the worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them? I know the feeling, I've been in that situation for the last 6 months. The girl knows that I have feelings for her but she chooses to take no notice of it, even though we are reasonably good friends and we talk together alot she manages to avoide the subject. |
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Post by Carlie on Aug 14, 2003 19:07:21 GMT 7
one of my friends is in a similar situation. BUt she keeps talking to this guy because she still thinks he's cool and she wants to be his friend, but nothing more; she doesn't have feelings for the guy like he does for her, but she doesn't want that to get in the way of their friendship... Ur friend might feel the same way??
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Post by boelsen on Aug 29, 2003 16:30:36 GMT 7
I know the feeling, I've been in that situation for the last 6 months. The girl knows that I have feelings for her but she chooses to take no notice of it, even though we are reasonably good friends and we talk together alot she manages to avoide the subject. I feel your pain |
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Post by .honeyspider. on Sept 8, 2003 15:23:19 GMT 7
...that the worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them? my god that is so true.. too true. i am doing it right now. i have been doing it every day for the past two weeks. it's hell. being so close to someone who is really actually so far from u.. it's shit. i just want to touch him, reach out and give him a kiss or tell him how i feel or anything.. something like before.. but i can't because it's friends. thats all. it is pure hell. love is definately suicide. never been more true to me......  |
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Post by nitrousovercast on Sept 9, 2003 15:00:06 GMT 7
poor donna but you know he still luvs you. |
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Post by Carlie on Sept 9, 2003 17:32:46 GMT 7
Donna, How are you and trev goin lately?? Hope its still goin alright for ya girly! |
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Post by sunkissed on Sept 9, 2003 18:56:26 GMT 7
Well , my friend had been after the same girl for 6 years...i joke about him stalking her actually , he trembles and stutters when hes about to ring her because he gets that scared, he had never told her that he liked her and just rang her every weekend and they remained 'best friends' for quite some time.
Eventually she ended up after about 2 years going out with some drop kick who happened to cheat on her twice , and subsequent of the dropkicks devilish ways he forced her to cut off communication with my friend because didnt want her 'talking with that fat kid' anyway this wnet on for a while.......
A year ago i met the guy who is now my friend, and after about 11 months of late nights listening to him tell me how much he loved her and other tennage love cliches i grabbed his phone and dialed her number with him in the room , we wrestled as it rang and he tried desperately to tear the mobile from my clutches , she picked up , and he tore the phone from my hands and turned it off. I then convinced him to leave a message on her message bank and just tell her that he 'liked' her ....'more than a friend' , and that she doesnt have to do ANYTHING about it , he just wanted her to know. Anyway , after 6 ... yes SIX blank messages where he would choke just before he would start talking he finally said in some incoherant babble ' i really like you' the moment of truth arrived the stars shone, the beez buzzed (probably) and everyone was happy. He then proceeded to throw up...why?
cus hes weird
anyway , now she has broken up with the dropkick and is 'some what' 'dating' my friend.
Where am i going with this?
Im tempted to just not post it , it seems irrelevant..
wait , i know why , because it is always worth telling someone the truth rather than leaving them to always wonder as my friend did. HE always felt content or comfortable not knowing wether or not she liked him , until i broke the cycle , and it turned out alright!
man this is long
apologies if this is all a long whinded version of 'be honest' but a bit of good old individual familiarism never hurt anyone.
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Post by .honeyspider. on Sept 10, 2003 14:38:44 GMT 7
poor donna but you know he still luvs you. yes but not enough i guess...... i wish love was everything but it isn't... i found that out the hard way. |
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Post by Carlie on Sept 10, 2003 18:51:42 GMT 7
osullivan - i totally agree; i don't think anyone should have to be embarrassed about having feelings for someone. Coz if you don't tell them how the hell are you ever gonna know if they feel the same way (they might just be thinking the same thing as you). And you don't wanna spend the rest of your life wondering.
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nitrousovercast
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Post by nitrousovercast on Sept 10, 2003 19:37:56 GMT 7
but sometimes you have no choice.
and even telling them would leave you with nothing, just make things awkward between two people who were once friends until one of them wanted more (it sounds greedy if i put it like that).
sometimes its not enough.
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Post by Carlie on Sept 10, 2003 19:56:53 GMT 7
yeah maybe for a while.... spose if you're good friends with someone though you'd probably have a rough idea if they had feelings for you or not... just based on their actions like how much interest they take in you compared to other people of the opposite sex... i dunno... i think it just gets to a point where you're miserable not knowing so you have to do something about it. And if the feelings aren't strong enough they go away with time so you no longer are bothered by it. Thats just how I see it anyway! |
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Post by nitrousovercast on Sept 13, 2003 12:27:25 GMT 7
thats a good theory
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Post by .honeyspider. on Oct 21, 2003 15:31:46 GMT 7
yeah maybe for a while.... spose if you're good friends with someone though you'd probably have a rough idea if they had feelings for you or not... just based on their actions like how much interest they take in you compared to other people of the opposite sex... i dunno... i think it just gets to a point where you're miserable not knowing so you have to do something about it. And if the feelings aren't strong enough they go away with time so you no longer are bothered by it. Thats just how I see it anyway! its weird though also.. because sometimes certain friends act like they want so much more and you are baffled as to why u are just friends when the feelings/actions are more than that... argh.. so difficult |
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Post by boelsen on Oct 21, 2003 17:11:28 GMT 7
Well , my friend had been after the same girl for 6 years...i joke about him stalking her actually , he trembles and stutters when hes about to ring her because he gets that scared, he had never told her that he liked her and just rang her every weekend and they remained 'best friends' for quite some time. Eventually she ended up after about 2 years going out with some drop kick who happened to cheat on her twice , and subsequent of the dropkicks devilish ways he forced her to cut off communication with my friend because didnt want her 'talking with that fat kid' anyway this wnet on for a while....... A year ago i met the guy who is now my friend, and after about 11 months of late nights listening to him tell me how much he loved her and other tennage love cliches i grabbed his phone and dialed her number with him in the room , we wrestled as it rang and he tried desperately to tear the mobile from my clutches , she picked up , and he tore the phone from my hands and turned it off. I then convinced him to leave a message on her message bank and just tell her that he 'liked' her ....'more than a friend' , and that she doesnt have to do ANYTHING about it , he just wanted her to know. Anyway , after 6 ... yes SIX blank messages where he would choke just before he would start talking he finally said in some incoherant babble ' i really like you' the moment of truth arrived the stars shone, the beez buzzed (probably) and everyone was happy. He then proceeded to throw up...why? cus hes weird anyway , now she has broken up with the dropkick and is 'some what' 'dating' my friend. Where am i going with this? Im tempted to just not post it , it seems irrelevant.. wait , i know why , because it is always worth telling someone the truth rather than leaving them to always wonder as my friend did. HE always felt content or comfortable not knowing wether or not she liked him , until i broke the cycle , and it turned out alright! man this is long apologies if this is all a long whinded version of 'be honest' but a bit of good old individual familiarism never hurt anyone. ITS ME!!! ;D Minus the phone call part  but i'm not thaaatt 'fat'  |
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nitrousovercast
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Post by nitrousovercast on Oct 31, 2003 16:41:56 GMT 7
ahaha thats cute
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Post by boelsen on Nov 9, 2003 16:25:47 GMT 7
let m change that, it WAS me! ;D ;D ;D
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Post by blue_june_destroyer on Nov 9, 2003 20:46:53 GMT 7
its weird though also.. because sometimes certain friends act like they want so much more and you are baffled as to why u are just friends when the feelings/actions are more than that... argh.. so difficult Because some friendships are meant to stay that way - as FRIENDS - some people can handle that, others just wanna push the damn envelope... I guess some people just search for hidden meaning in friendships like that - when the love really isn't there in the first place, just a deep friendship. If one of the friends likes the other more, they'll keep on mistaking every kind word and nice gesture as "something more". I've been through this with a few male friends of mine and it gets to the point where you have to sit them down and say "I hope you understand that we're just friends? Nothings going on between us." Then again, I guess some people are just too stubborn and dense to realise the one they want isn't wanting them in return. |
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Post by toolgasm on Nov 10, 2003 5:22:30 GMT 7
Because some friendships are meant to stay that way - as FRIENDS - some people can handle that, others just wanna push the damn envelope... I guess some people just search for hidden meaning in friendships like that - when the love really isn't there in the first place, just a deep friendship. If one of the friends likes the other more, they'll keep on mistaking every kind word and nice gesture as "something more". I've been through this with a few male friends of mine and it gets to the point where you have to sit them down and say "I hope you understand that we're just friends? Nothings going on between us." Then again, I guess some people are just too stubborn and dense to realise the one they want isn't wanting them in return. Sounds like you've never pursued anyone Bree. That you've never wanted something more out of a friendship? |
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Post by sunky on Nov 10, 2003 10:26:27 GMT 7
for one: bree pursued me, we were friends for over a year before we started going out. But it wasn't one of us pushing it to happen, we both knew we had things to deal with before the time was right.
I know what Bree is saying, if it is mutual both parties will WANT to take it to the next step ... but if only one party wants it - why waste your time. I had that with many of my ex-friends ... they wanted something more with me, i was honest and truthful to them and told them they are friends and that is it. There is no point getting your hopes up and try and change the other persons way of thinking about you ... if it isn't there at the beginning it will never be there.
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Post by .honeyspider. on Nov 10, 2003 10:28:48 GMT 7
Because some friendships are meant to stay that way - as FRIENDS - some people can handle that, others just wanna push the damn envelope... I guess some people just search for hidden meaning in friendships like that - when the love really isn't there in the first place, just a deep friendship. If one of the friends likes the other more, they'll keep on mistaking every kind word and nice gesture as "something more". I've been through this with a few male friends of mine and it gets to the point where you have to sit them down and say "I hope you understand that we're just friends? Nothings going on between us." Then again, I guess some people are just too stubborn and dense to realise the one they want isn't wanting them in return. sometimes that is true.. i agree.. i have been in that situation with male friends also.. but sometimes it isn't. not everything is black and white. just wondering bree...do you think friends cant be in love? i just thought i'd ask as you wrote about above.. "when the love really isn't there in the first place, just a deep friendship" ~ that may be true for some people.. but i also know people who are very much in love and are friends. anyway.. overall a good point made.. if it is spoken by either or both parties that it is just friendship, and the boundarys are laid.. it shouldnt be pushed. and it isnt in my case. (when the boundaries laid are broken, thats when problems arise) whether this is a general post or actually aimed at mine and trevs friendship/relationship.. thats cool either way. we know what we have, there is no confusion whatsoever on our behalf.. if there is on other peoples behalf they can ask us questions by all means. everything is out in the open with us. we arent hiding anything. and we arent treating our friendship as something 'more' or something 'less' than what it is. we are still more than friends at this stage, but we are doing things our own way, and it is working for us. we have the same goal at the end, and that entails us being the best of friends and always having each other. whether it ends up being more than friends or only friends, it doesn't matter to us. as long as we find out where we are going and what we want. if there are ever any doubts and questions we talk about them, and thats the way it should be. i am sure you can understand that perfectly as you and sunky would talk about everything when it arises i'm sure. and whether trevor and i are friends or more.. it doesnt matter, the same thing still happens. we still talk about it and we both know where our relationship with each other is going in the long run. things like what you spoke about above happen when the two people have a communication breakdown. and i must admit it has happened in the past with trev and i.. it has happened with many people. but once you talk about things it is clear. and whether anyone else can understand what we are doing.. we dont really care. if they ask us, we will do our best to explain it to them... but if no-one asks us, we still go about our business. whether people assume something more is going on or not is not our worry. |
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Post by AlmostOz on Nov 10, 2003 17:28:09 GMT 7
love is more than everything, but more importantly, love is what you want it to be.
love sucks at times and love is great at others
theres a pumpkins line covering that, but its on the tip of my fingers.. its off adore
converesly to the original conversation, ive found myself in the situation where i know i could have that person, but just do nothing about it ( i know beause they have told me)
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nitrousovercast
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Post by nitrousovercast on Nov 13, 2003 16:42:09 GMT 7
do you mean
love is good and love is kind
love is drunk and love is blind
love is good and love is mine
love is drunk all the time
from shame?
i was listening to that today.
anyway i've come to my own personal conclusion. since i'm a fairly avoidant person this won't apply to everyone but i just stay away. right away. until i'm comfortable enough to come back and be certain i won't fall all over again.
it seems to be working most of the time.
who am i kidding here...
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Post by stumbleine on Dec 15, 2003 10:44:31 GMT 7
I know what its like to have someone right there really like them and yet can't have them even though you want more. It hurts like fucking hell. I remained friends with him. I valued the friendship we had too much to let it go. Oddly, enough I found out he liked me too, yet nothing ever happened. We didn't speak for a while and when we did I realised he was such an asshole. Meh and thats my story
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