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Post by .honeyspider. on Apr 2, 2003 10:48:08 GMT 7
mighty bootylicious huh? hehe
;D a good way to be!
damn its in my head now too.. grrrrr
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Post by kanzax on Apr 15, 2003 22:43:38 GMT 7
OK, I have been meaning to post in this thread for a while now and never got around to it. However, something happened last week which just really bugged me. This is probably going to be long, whiny, boring, lacking structure and possibly somewhat hypocritical to many people here so I am letting you know in advance you are more than welcome to click the link up the top next to the little folder thing saying "Ozphoria Message Board". I am single and have been for quite a while now. I complain to people who I trust that there's no eligible females around. What I get in response is a breakdown of all the friends that these people know who are available and reasons why I won't date them. Then I usually get the "I'm not setting you up with anymore of my friends because I don't want to be the person in the middle" speech. And I don't blame them. The being the person in the middle sucks, I don't mind it so much but its much easier if you could just take one side and be all righteous than try and be all diplomatic. See I'm not picky, well at least when it comes to appearance (as many of my "jock" friends can testify to). I just get images in my head of what I think certain chicks could be and quite often they turn out to be someone completely different. It's kinda hard to explain. Ok, for example, this one girl I was speaking to, very individual. Wore this long tartan pattern skirty thing one day and then the next wore these super baggy jeans (baggy not in the current fashionable bohemian look nor the urban hip hop street look, just unusual). when you see someone like this in a university of tight half-faded-pseudo-dirty-wannabe-bohemian jeans and those sunglasses which dont look like they have a tint or if they do its probably a real light orange, it is rather refreshing and that person will stand out (don't get me wrong, that pseudo-bohemian look is quite ok by me, it just gets monotonous after the 400th one walks past). And this girl does Chemistry at uni, and is a full geek about it. This again is rather refreshing considering all the other chicks I talk to at uni are either doing Commerce {for the money} or Physiotherapy {for the guys}. Oh by the way, she wears glasses. So anyway, I start talking to her et cetera and we meet up to study in the library. The day we meet she is completely changed, she's wearing those tight jeans as described earlier, wearing those sunglasses as described earlier, she looks like every other chick at uni. I then find out that she's from the country (and not like Bunbury or Albany or anywhere sane, I'm talking sheep country, almost at the goldmines) which in itself isn't all that bad but then she tells me that she wore those jeans the other day because she was moving house and couldn't find any clothes to wear. She also tells me that she hates her glasses and needs to get new contacts, only doing Chemistry to get into Nutrition {Nutrition?? wtf??} but she might just change back into Commerce {I knew it} and she likes music {music, music, the saving grace, please, let her tastes be good, or at least tolerable}. I asked her what music she liked and her response was "Oh you know, the latest stuff on the radio. I usually sell off all my cd's that are older than a couple of years, except Kylie Minouge (sp?). I love Kylie so much, Danii isn't too bad and that stuff from Delta Goodrem is ok and Bec Cartwright......" {AAAAGGGGGGHHHH}. To top it off just as we were leaving I hear, "You know, you should cut your hair. My sister is a hairdresser now and she could do wonders with it, you could even spike it like Josh off Home and Away." I am rambling, I apologise but the forum does say Love is Suicide so I'm going to proceed. The actual circumstance which convinced me to write this goes a lot more like this: Met a girl through friends and found out she goes to the same university as I do. Spoke to her and all and teed up a time to meet. I get at the meeting spot and wait, and wait, play snake on my phone, pull out some circuitry work book, talk to someone else who walks past, wait a bit more then leave. I waited about an hour. I know I made the fatal error in this age of meeting someone and not having their number to find out where they are but I am a fairly trusting person. Anyways as things should go I saw this girl today (along with our mutual friends). She acted like nothing happened. We talked about different things, got along really well {the same "well" that we had gotten along before}. So it took me to say, "Last Thursday? What was up?" The response? "Oh yeah, it was all raining and that, I didn't bother about coming into uni. Don't you hate the rain?" {No, actually I like the fucking rain, rain pretty much sums up how I feel at the moment} Not even an apology. Not that I was specifically looking for one but.... egghhh. Well, there are more stories along these lines but I think it's time for me to stop dribbling on my keyboard and actually make a point out of all of this. Basically, I don't want to change who I am, I mean I could, I could spike my hair and shop exclusively at Brothers Neilsen or Live and be seen at all the events around Perth and buy a flash car and start becoming "cool", yet I fear if I don't then I will just continue along this path of single-dom. It's easy to get a chick on image but those chicks kinda get boring because they are as one dimensional as the guy they think you are. I probably have more thoughts in my head to write but I'll same them for another post or another site, heck another medium even. Wow you actually got this far, you deserve something nice *sticks hand in pocket*. Bugger all I have are chewing gum wrappers, a pink and blue bouncy ball and the remnants of a Heinekin beer coaster. Take your pick...
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Post by SPchick on Apr 15, 2003 22:59:59 GMT 7
I'll take the bouncy ball. Wow, ok, I'm half asleep at the moment, I hope I'm not going way off track with what I just read. I apologise in advance for spelling and grammar.
It did make sense. Yeah. I hope my response does too. It sucks that you've been dicked around by these chicks, some chicks are just not very nice. Standing you up? - bitch. I dont know about what you were saying about the image of a girl. I think its kinda silly to be limiting yourself. You might find an amazing brilliant funny girl who is nothing like your "image". She could be a black midget with a huge assed 'fro. But she could be your soulmate. I guess what I am trying to say is that you need to look past things like image, all those superficial things like musical taste etc. Look for someone with an inner beauty that attracts you, someone with a good soul. WHERE THE HELL AM I GOING?? eep. But on the other hand, I know what your talking about. I definatly have a "type" of guy I tend to date. I dont think I've dated a guy since was 15 who wasnt into music, who couldnt hold a decent itelligent conversation and didnt have a great sense of humour. (so yeah i missed a few in the recent past.) Its great to find someone who has similar interests as you. I love that I can talk to Jesse about Billy and James and my desire to meet Bugg and he shares my enthusiasm. I'm also rapt that we can talk about anything, and we can do things that we both like doing. (going to see bands, talking to trev, making out).
OK now I've got no idea what I'm talking about, I think its something along the lines of - Stick in there, you'll meet someone grouse, just dont limit yourself to only paying attention to girls in glasses. *coughs*
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Post by demi sex god from hell on Apr 16, 2003 9:22:07 GMT 7
keep trying, she's out there. often when you not paricularly looking, too. good luck.
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Post by .honeyspider. on Apr 16, 2003 9:56:21 GMT 7
i agree with vic... as much as always i have looked for a guy who is the purfect picture of darkness (hehe) - ok, all through high school i looked for the guy in the corner with the black hair and the guy in the band at school.. you know the ones im talkin about.. and funnily enuf they were all absolute assholes to me.. (maybe i just picked bad guys) anyway.. im going to try and say this so it makes some kind of sense.... but when i met warren (my true soulmate) he wasnt the typical guy i would go for... hes very quiet, which i dont mind, but he wasnt exactly a picture of darkness like i spoke about b4, yes he has a great passion for music and plays guitar/bass and loves everything i love... but to my friends at the time.. he was just a dorky guy, who THEY beleived wasnt rite for me.......little do they know, he and i have a million things in common so much so that it scares me at times!! - but like i was saying, my friends said, oh he's not good looking enuf, oh hes not ur type... but shit i dont care, and it took me a lot of gutts and a lot of losing "so called friends" to realise that i think hes beautiful and it doesnt fucking matter what hes wearing or what he looks like or even what i look like, because we love each other, and we are so similar... whether it be coz we both hate j.lo with a passion or we both love guinea pigs and goats or we both have a weird obsession with goths, or we both love billy! what im trying to say is bascially what vic just said haha.. but i wanted you to know that it works like that for a lot of people.. and its whats deep down that matters. i truely hope u find someone who shares ur passions with you coz i know i went thru a lot of shit before i found my warren and as much as he may look like a dork to some people i think he is the most beautiful person i have EVER met. and im not just sayin that... he has taught me that it doesnt matter even what i look like or what people think, (i am probably the most panaroid person any of u would ever meet) when it comes to myself, and very shy at times, but he brought me out of that a bit, and constantly tells me it doesnt matter what people think of me, he thinks im gorgeous... hes also taught me it doesnt matter what other people look like its everything else that counts...warren is the single most gorgeous person ever, and its all because he loves and cares for me and understands me more than i understand myself!! anyway i am sure you're all gagging by now, and i may have got off the track but i just wanted to say that, and let u know that i know how u feel, and as much as i have him now, i went through years and years without anyone and picking the wrong guys and fucking things up, and well if it can work out for me, anyone has hope! ;D - end of donnas rambles! haha
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Post by PaRkA on Apr 16, 2003 13:36:11 GMT 7
dude whats with the chicks wanting the blocks to "spike" their hair. i have a shaved head i have one by choice, but every second person comes up to me and says "you should grow and spike it, it would look good" fuck them if my hair design is the overriding factor in getting a girl then maybe i dont want one like that, if me having a shaved head means my personality has changed with the loss of hair, then maybe these ppl should get their heads out of their asses. well im pretty sure most ppl new that was going to come out of me sooner or later... thats all i have to say.. so you not what im going to do.. (a little story)..theres this friend of mine, she is hell bent on getting me to grow my hair, and spike it, she has even said that if/when i do i can have her....(you guys know what im on about).. so this is the plan...i am going to grow my hair and get it to look like all the rave at the moment, ill keep it like that for a bit till i see this girl then when she says ok i want you (or something to that extent), im goin to refuse her and go for somebody that i know she hates, just to piss her off. then i will shave my head again
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Post by Steve on Apr 16, 2003 13:40:02 GMT 7
Go For It!
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Post by .honeyspider. on Apr 16, 2003 13:42:07 GMT 7
i dont like spikey hair.. i like messy hair.. long weird messy hair.. dont care what really! and my b/f has spikey hair dammit grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr hehe
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Post by demi sex god from hell on Apr 16, 2003 14:44:15 GMT 7
lol, parka that is diabolical! sounds great.
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Post by demi sex god from hell on Apr 16, 2003 14:48:46 GMT 7
i wouldn't say spikey hair is the "in" hair at the moment. its still very popular though. i see the longish messy pushed to the side hair going around on the teenies head now a days.
but, all mens hair seems to derive from david beckam so when he goes enventually shaves bald, parka you're in!
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Post by .honeyspider. on Apr 16, 2003 16:19:10 GMT 7
i wouldn't say spikey hair is the "in" hair at the moment. its still very popular though. i see the longish messy pushed to the side hair going around on the teenies head now a days. but, all mens hair seems to derive from david beckam so when he goes enventually shaves bald, parka you're in! ahh hes already been there done that... beckham shaved i mean.. dont ask me how i know.. i hate the tosser!
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Post by kanzax on Apr 16, 2003 16:44:41 GMT 7
Hehe, look at the commotion I caused. To spike or not to spike...
My hair is the bane of many of my friends. See I always had short hair throughout high school when it was fashionable. Then at about October last year I thought "fuck cutting my hair" and so I stopped cutting it. Its been a while now and every now and again I need to cut the hair above the side burns a little bit but I pretty much haven't cut any length since then. My goal is to have it long enough to eat {why you may ask? well because i like the taste of my own hair ok}. I'm almost there. I may cut it short again when I reach my goal, mainly because my hair looks pretty crappy long {unless of course I want to grow it real long and look like Andrew Hauge off JJJ}. Not because heaps of people have been telling me to cut it. In fact the more people tell me to cut it, the more I want to keep it, kind of this stubborn resistance bulldust which gets me into a lot of arguments. But anyway, I might cut it soon, who knows.
Update on the earlier story; spoke to the chick who stood me up's friend today. She wondered why I had been so distant and not really talking much yesterday. Now I really did feel like doing something violent right then, but instead I called the chick who stood me up. Not home, but she returns my call {A-fucking-mazing}:
Me: Hey, how are ya Chick: Yeah good....
<insert any random idle small talk chit chat>
Me: So ah, you did remember that you were supposed to meet me the other day Chick: When? {dont yell it will make things worse} Me: Thursday Chick: Oh, yeah, thats right, it was raining though! Oh were you waiting for me? {NO WHY WOULD I, I MEAN WHEN PEOPLE MEET EACH OTHER THEY DONT USUALLY WAIT DO THEY??} Me: Yeah, yes I was. Not all that long though, and I got there late so I thought that you had already left. Chick: Oh yeah, nah I didn't come. Hey maybe we could meet up again? {Yeah, why not. Waiting is my favourite pastime} Me: Yeah ok then...
<gets details and sets up another meeting time>
Ok, so I'm going to meet her again. What for? I don't know. I don't even know if I do want to meet her again {again? you mean for the first time}. So its going to be a bit weird. It's next week so I'll let you guys know how it goes. Or maybe if I'm using up too much bandwidth I might just post a 10 word response {yeah, like it could keep to ten words}.
Anyway, getting back to some coherent thought here. The image in my head is not limiting, well I don't think so anyway. I just tend to head for the girls who don't usually have all the guys following them, because they are usually the best ones to talk to. Heh, someone there picked up on my glasses comment, well glasses are a big turn on for me {dont ask, its best if its not revealed}, but I don't exclusively date or even go for chicks with glasses. The images doesn't limit me its just that I tend that way but for some reason most of those girls are either taken, too weird (ie really really into psycedelic (sp?) art, not that I don't like that, its just me and a person into that wouldn't have that much in common), or they just aren't right. I'm picky when it comes to personality. I want someone flawed, someone different, someone like me. I don't know what I'm saying, really now, just that black midgets are cool but huge assed 'fro's aren't really my cup of tea.
*gives spchick the bouncy ball* new prizes tonight: a 50c piece, broken domino (a 2 and half of the 1 side), wheel from a broken mouse (computer that is) and a set of green headphone covers.
oh and somewhat damaged - you have my vote of approval in your actions.
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Post by SPchick on Apr 16, 2003 18:25:44 GMT 7
Yeah I have a thing for glasses too.
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Post by PaRkA on Apr 17, 2003 18:15:20 GMT 7
UPDATE
still single hair still growing bait is on hook
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Post by SPchick on Apr 17, 2003 19:11:45 GMT 7
*lol* Parka. Your a champ
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Post by PaRkA on Apr 19, 2003 14:57:23 GMT 7
UPDATE 2
hair still growing now has beard *is irresistable to the opposite sex* still full of shit tho hook still baited, now dangling precariously in front of victim
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Magdelena
cherub rocker
Midnight on my lips
Half awake/ Half asleep
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Post by Magdelena on Apr 20, 2003 14:10:19 GMT 7
Hey Parka.....im a bit like you these days......cant be bothered going fishing anymore. Just doesnt seem worth it. For some reason girls dont want to talk to me?.....Ive been told im very unapproachable....i was like wtf?.....I stand there all night and pray for a girl to talk to me!!!! Apparently im too confident looking or something...as though all the girls will assume i wont want to talk to them?...Go figure......i dont know if the girl that said all that was being nice....or being serious...kinda scares me actually. Hope its not true....cause i aint like that. Being single has its ups....but leaves a big nasty hole in your heart all the time....thats what does me in.....i dont like being alone....it makes me sad. I always go out hunting...and always come back sad...and dissapointed.....im just seaching for some fictional princess....is she out there? Who knows....
I met a nice one last night.......(she plays drums!!!)...but i dont know...she threw me the 'i like to go out and have fun' line, which usually equates to 'i like to go out and fuck anything that moves.....and tonight its you'.....which i didnt really have a problem with....if girls are gonna be sluts, then im gonna treat em like it and beat them at their own game.....(contempt and anger growing), but its not something you want in a girlfriend.
Oh...and kanzax.....the key is to stand tall and dictate the moves.....dont listen to their shit..and dont get all silly from their smile....its a trap. Tell them straight up what you want and how its gonna be.....or theyll swallow you whole in a sea of lies and emotional baggage. If she stood you up...go for the jugular and attack her as to why....dont just fall away and go....'oh..thats ok'.....cause shell do it again. Its raining?....Jesus Christ....what a poor reason...you sound god damn intelligent kanzax....dont settle for anything less than yourself. That is the way it should be.
Wow...i feel better now!!!
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Post by PaRkA on Apr 21, 2003 18:56:20 GMT 7
micheal... we must have been at the same place on sat night , cos i came acroos the same thing, i was in the paramount of all places, with 2 friends from work, both girls both good friends, to the point where nothing would happen between us, unless there was severe amounts of alcohol, well i was standing at the bar minding my own business waiting to get served, and the girl comes up beside me and asked if i was ordering, i replied "yep, do u want a drink?", asking basically to be nice, and she went all ranty on me about how she was sick of guys dumb pickup lines, well after she finished venting, i explained that i was only being nice and there no conotation with it, and i copped it again, just then both my friends came up to me, and said they were goin up stairs so i followed, when i came back down, i went to the bar again to get another drink only to find this girl standing there with her back to me, well i went to the otherside of the bar, just so i didnt cop it again, when i got served, i told the bartender to get what ever the girl was having without telling her it was me (i have a bar account there, so it was easier), well she came around to me, and said thank you, and in turn said that she had to repay me for the generous offer, well she whispered something in my ear that usually would put a smile on my face, i told her no i wasnt interested, and that i had to drive friends home so it wasnt going to happen, well anybody would have thought i told her she was ugly as fuck and should crawl back under the rock she came from, so i walked off...
now to me, what i did was fairly...well honest, i gave up a one night stand, for sheer ability to do so, also at the same time i wish i had taken her up on the offer, but it just wasnt goin to happen.
now after all this rambling i have totally lost where i was going, but i'll finish by saying that i have learnt that even if you are nice to people they will think ur acting or putting it on, and if your a wanker they slap you in the face, now explain this to me, why is it when i go out and are having a good time and some loser starts on me with the same attitude that gains me a slap, why is it that this person has a nice girl, is it some sort of fear, is it a perception thing, a sign of strength, weakness, is it that they are paid, tortured and fear leaving them??/ if so they never show signs it just happens to be, now i have remembered my point.
how do you pick up a girl??
do you put on a an act? do you be urself? do u tell the truth?? do you lie?? do u speak?? do u say nothing?? do u continue to go out?? do u become a hermit??
im lost
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Post by PaRkA on Apr 21, 2003 18:57:19 GMT 7
it almost makes me want to shave my head...
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Post by SPchick on Apr 21, 2003 19:09:26 GMT 7
Parka maybe you will find a nice girly in Melbourne!
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Post by PaRkA on Apr 21, 2003 19:15:07 GMT 7
maybe but thats not really going to be practical if i live in perth, and its so far away.
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Post by SPchick on Apr 22, 2003 9:51:34 GMT 7
Silly moose, you could take her back to Perth with you! Come to think of it, you probably wont find a tops sheila in Melbourne, its full of skanks. Cept for me and Donna of course!
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Post by .honeyspider. on Apr 22, 2003 14:47:20 GMT 7
hehe rite on v we are the only good chickys round here! thats why jesse and warry have us
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Post by kanzax on Apr 24, 2003 20:32:26 GMT 7
how do you pick up a girl?? do you put on a an act? do you be urself? do u tell the truth?? do you lie?? do u speak?? do u say nothing?? do u continue to go out?? do u become a hermit?? *wishes he was back in the caveman age with a big club* at least then if you give a chick a nice big piece of sabretooth meat you were considered a casanova... met that other chick i was talking about earlier today. she said some shit about going to sydney for 3 months or something... behh, i give up.
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Post by Cygnet on Apr 27, 2003 13:46:42 GMT 7
*wishes he was back in the caveman age with a big club* at least then if you give a chick a nice big piece of sabretooth meat you were considered a casanova... . ;DYeah, shame things aren't that simple now. Oh well
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Post by .honeyspider. on Apr 29, 2003 6:01:51 GMT 7
im beginning to wish i was single now.. i have a big huge massive (but small) problem guys........(oh and that sounded really bad, its not suss like that ) but i'll tell u more lata.. gotta do some work.. just remind me to tell u tho! d xx
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Post by kanzax on Apr 29, 2003 7:56:06 GMT 7
im beginning to wish i was single now.. i have a big huge massive (but small) problem guys........(oh and that sounded really bad, its not suss like that ) but i'll tell u more lata.. gotta do some work.. just remind me to tell u tho! its like those people who come up to you and say; " i know something really cool but i cant tell you yet and i cant tell you why i cant tell you either.... nerr nerr"
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Post by .honeyspider. on Apr 29, 2003 9:21:26 GMT 7
aww now come on im at work! grr its a long story ok ok... here goes... i am of course newly single from the evil ex cheating episode etc.. and u all know the basic story bout that.. then theres my warren whom i luv to bits (very close frined who is more than that and yeh.. u know the story) anyway, laura told me not to be a rebound chick so i am tryin to keep things laid back with warry for now so that we dont go too quickly and my feelings are mixed up. enter new fellow........ theres a guy who i have been talkin to a bit (which i will NOT name) who i think i have a slight crush or whatever u want to call it on.. and i dont even know if its that or if he just understands me and i am seein it as more but im feelin weird about it. i shouldnt have even said it was a crush coz its not, its just a thing that i am feeling and its a guy who i am really interested in for some reason and so its weird. ok that didnt make sense. hes a guy who i havent known very long but we have a lot in common and i like chattin to him and stuff and i am having a hard time koz i dont know how guys are and what they feel about certain situations and if he wants to be more than friends and thats why hes paying me so much attention.... or if hes just bein friendly or if he just wants a friend like me... and it seems that we have a good connection and stuff which is fine by me, but its hard detemining whether im just feeling friendly feelings or something more........ arghhhhhhhhhhh to top it off i really think i wanna be friends with him but im scared if we go out together as friends i might be attracted to him and something else will happen! ok im not making any sense so my posting is stopping hehe ;D u get the idea. i dont know whats goin on myself so its hard to tell the story!
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Post by demi sex god from hell on Apr 29, 2003 12:20:03 GMT 7
hmmm. your situation is a tough one. i suggest you get together with this guy (in the meeting up way) and see how it goes, and go from there. you have to find out either way... its seems like this is kinda stressing you a little...
maybe meet this guy wth some friends *cough* and see how it goes.
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Post by .honeyspider. on Apr 29, 2003 12:36:25 GMT 7
hmmm. your situation is a tough one. i suggest you get together with this guy (in the meeting up way) and see how it goes, and go from there. you have to find out either way... its seems like this is kinda stressing you a little... maybe meet this guy wth some friends *cough* and see how it goes. have you got a cold jesse? poor thing thanx for the advice yep it is stressin me to the point of where i don't know whether to even talk to him or not! arrrhhhh
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