nitrousovercast
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Mar 12, 2004 16:56:28 GMT 7
Post by nitrousovercast on Mar 12, 2004 16:56:28 GMT 7
There's this incredibly beautiful boy in year 12 who hangs around with his year 12 friends right near where my year 10 friends and my year 10 self hang around at school. He looks rather a lot like Alex james (from Blur). I made the mistake of mentioning to my friend what I think of him and since then she's been yelling out 'She likes you!' 'She thinks you're cute!' to him every day. So, now he thinks I like him (when in actual fact I don't even KNOW him) and his friends as well. Another insane friend of mine was talking to him yesterday and he basically said I am too young for him. My friends are annoyed with this boy because he's judged me by my age and not bothered to get to know me. I'm not surprised at it but they sure are...
Is it just me, or have you ever noticed, that when you are 15/16 and 17/18 the age difference seems like so much more than it is if you're 25 and 27, or something like that? Is it that the age gap gets smaller and smaller as you get older? I usually never 'fall for' older guys. Somehow I'm always surprised when a girl tells me about her 18 year old boyfriend who drives etc when she's only my age (15).
Just how big does an age gap have to be before you won't bother to be interested in someone? Any other thoughts?
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Mar 12, 2004 17:12:47 GMT 7
Post by toolgasm on Mar 12, 2004 17:12:47 GMT 7
I think the age gap matters a lot more when people are younger. It probably has something to do with maturity and maybe he (wrongly) automatically assumes that because you're a few years younger than him you're not as mature and probably won't get along?
Or maybe he feels like it'll affect his social status if he goes out with a Year 10 girl...Maybe it's not "cool" to do that?
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Mar 12, 2004 17:16:40 GMT 7
Post by .honeyspider. on Mar 12, 2004 17:16:40 GMT 7
she's been yelling out 'She likes you!' 'She thinks you're cute!' to him every day.ooh how annoying! lol.. maybe that has something 2 do with it.. grr for silly friends yelling out stuff.. anyway yeh i agree with josh.. i think in high school etc.. people assume that the people a year or 2 below them are totally NOT mature or something. oh and also, i think its a matter of wanting to be "cool" aswell.. maybe he thinks dating a younger chick is "uncool" which is also stupid and in that case.. hes a bit immature too i dont know babes.. but ill give u a cuddle koz i read ur lj and i know u need it *hugs* xxx d
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nitrousovercast
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Mar 12, 2004 17:40:44 GMT 7
Post by nitrousovercast on Mar 12, 2004 17:40:44 GMT 7
I never thought of that. He's not really one of those 'cool' types. I understand how he would think I'm immature, because a lot of girls my age are (for instance the afore-mentioned screaming friend...we should get her checked for Tourette's or something) but...I don't know, I guess I'm just unhappy that he would just dismiss someone like that. It's ironic in a weird way, I was using that exact excuse or age so people would stop pestering me to go talk to him. (Thanks for the cuddling Donna )
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Mar 12, 2004 17:48:22 GMT 7
Post by .honeyspider. on Mar 12, 2004 17:48:22 GMT 7
no probs hun.. and yeh i know what u mean.. i liked this guy in high school who was a yr above me and well, he was on and off with me because of my friends doing the "she loves u" thing and all that crap.. and it pissed me off but also.. i didnt understand why he couldnt seperate them and me. it is so hard though when school is all about the "image".. i think thats why it happens. why dont u chase him once u leave school hehe.. xxx sorry i couldnt help anymore babe!
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nitrousovercast
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Mar 12, 2004 18:01:33 GMT 7
Post by nitrousovercast on Mar 12, 2004 18:01:33 GMT 7
What's ridiculous about that, though, he and one of his friends walked over to us and said to the screaming friend "Chris likes you!" (Chris being the brother of one of our friends and obviously a friend of theirs). I should have said "are you sure he's not too OLD for her?"
I'd like to stay mad...I really would.
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Mar 12, 2004 18:07:19 GMT 7
Post by .honeyspider. on Mar 12, 2004 18:07:19 GMT 7
oh my god.. that wouldve been classic.. thats very weird.. boys are strange i have decided... hehe sorry to all the boys on ozphoria
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Mar 12, 2004 18:19:01 GMT 7
Post by anti on Mar 12, 2004 18:19:01 GMT 7
two years isnt really an issue if your 18 and 16, the only problem is if he want to go to a club or something.
if he judges you by your age then he probly isnt worth the trouble anyway.
arnt girls supposed to be more mature anyway so the age gap doesnt matter.
'You gotta ditch that zero and get yo'self a hero' (sorry bad jerry quote, i just wanted to ad that in)
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Mar 12, 2004 18:24:15 GMT 7
Post by toolgasm on Mar 12, 2004 18:24:15 GMT 7
oh my god.. that wouldve been classic.. thats very weird.. boys are strange i have decided... hehe sorry to all the boys on ozphoria Hey, at least we aren't overly emotional
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Mar 12, 2004 18:26:39 GMT 7
Post by toolgasm on Mar 12, 2004 18:26:39 GMT 7
'You gotta ditch that zero and get yo'self a hero' (sorry bad jerry quote, i just wanted to ad that in) lol you give THE BEST advice Shaun! ;D
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Mar 12, 2004 18:40:30 GMT 7
Post by .honeyspider. on Mar 12, 2004 18:40:30 GMT 7
Hey, at least we aren't overly emotional hmm yuss u got me there
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Mar 13, 2004 10:01:39 GMT 7
Post by sunky on Mar 13, 2004 10:01:39 GMT 7
the age difference bewteen 16-18 is not so much an age difference physically, but more mentally. Its because when being 18 you're going to start that oh so fictional 'real-life' / 'adult-world' time period. So anyone below you're age you see as really young, which is wrong but I would have to admit I was like that.
Its not until you get into that 'real-world' and you start to think ... hey im not much older than those people, that was me 2 years ago.
Also your friends, they shouldn't yell stuff out like that ... it doesn't help to do that.
Try and keep track of what the guys doing after school also ... because if he see's you out of school, his view of you might be different.
im sorry if i give bad advice
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Mar 13, 2004 14:15:53 GMT 7
Post by anti on Mar 13, 2004 14:15:53 GMT 7
Try and keep track of what the guys doing after school also ... because if he see's you out of school, his view of you might be different. [ yeah but stalking might give the wrong impression
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nitrousovercast
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Mar 13, 2004 15:02:20 GMT 7
Post by nitrousovercast on Mar 13, 2004 15:02:20 GMT 7
I know, I think none of this would have happened like this if she'd been able to keep her trap shut when I asked her to. What do I have to do, clamp my hand over her mouth? Gah. Really, I just wish I'd never had anything to do with him. It's just my friends HAD to tell him. BTW Sunky - it's not bad advice at all
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Mar 13, 2004 15:04:00 GMT 7
Post by AlmostOz on Mar 13, 2004 15:04:00 GMT 7
don't feel sad nitrous, why you;d pass up a chick that loves the smashing pumpkins i don't know, they are pretty rare, he must be pretty silly. i wouldn't pass it up + we all know u r pretty mature.
and yeh, none of it matters when you reach that stupid level called "the real world" so fondly by parents and older people
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nitrousovercast
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Mar 13, 2004 15:11:26 GMT 7
Post by nitrousovercast on Mar 13, 2004 15:11:26 GMT 7
I sort of want to think like my friends do, that he's not worth knowing if he's the sort to judge people before he knows them, but unlike them I'm not that quick to judge. Might make things easier for me though. I'd just like to give up. Thanks mate.
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Mar 13, 2004 15:23:56 GMT 7
Post by AlmostOz on Mar 13, 2004 15:23:56 GMT 7
"Fool enough to almost be it Cool enough to not quite see it Doomed Pick your pockets full of sorrow And run away with me tomorrow June "
"And I fail But when I can, I will "
(why give up? its all fun in the end anyway)
now i have to go listen to that song. i love it.
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Mar 13, 2004 17:34:23 GMT 7
Post by foxy on Mar 13, 2004 17:34:23 GMT 7
well, my girlfriend is 18 and im 17, she turns 19 this yeah and i turn 18 this year, some 3 months after she turns 19. I think it works for us because we are in the same year at school so we are kind of in the same SOCIAL age group...
i think there is a huge different between grade in school more than age at school. Like i said at school younger people in the year (you know the ones, they were born in the early months of the year and are a year younger than most in your grade at school) seem alot more mature than those who are the same age but a grade below at school...
So ill tend to disagree and say that 2 years difference is not a big difference at the age of those at high school, but two grades is a huge difference.
eg if your 16 in yr 10 and the other is 18 in year 12 thats alot different to 16 in year 11 and 18 in year 12...
makes sense to me.
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Mar 13, 2004 18:01:47 GMT 7
Post by PaRkA on Mar 13, 2004 18:01:47 GMT 7
yeah what foxy said ;D
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Post by trev on Mar 14, 2004 9:55:16 GMT 7
the age difference bewteen 16-18 is not so much an age difference physically, but more mentally. Its because when being 18 you're going to start that oh so fictional 'real-life' / 'adult-world' time period. So anyone below you're age you see as really young, which is wrong but I would have to admit I was like that. Yeah, i agree with sunky here.... the age thing isn't really an age thing, it's more about where your mind is at. Until you have had a few years in the "real world" for want of a better term, your opinons and wants and values etc. are gonna change HEAPS. and it's the rate of change that isn't compatible. It's ok for short term relationships, but the odds of a couple lasting from mid-teens to long term is very slim. I hope that makes sense....
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Mar 14, 2004 10:52:11 GMT 7
Post by kanzax on Mar 14, 2004 10:52:11 GMT 7
'You gotta ditch that zero and get yo'self a hero' (sorry bad jerry quote, i just wanted to ad that in) wtf? Jerry? the quote was from Vanilla Ice's movie dude. anyway, i reckon you should forget about this spud you be chasing, and go for a guy who looks like noel gallagher, because we all know that oasis won the britpop war..... even though blur was the superior band. but its all about status..!
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Mar 14, 2004 12:43:18 GMT 7
Post by .honeyspider. on Mar 14, 2004 12:43:18 GMT 7
Yeah, i agree with sunky here.... the age thing isn't really an age thing, it's more about where your mind is at. Until you have had a few years in the "real world" for want of a better term, your opinons and wants and values etc. are gonna change HEAPS. and it's the rate of change that isn't compatible. It's ok for short term relationships, but the odds of a couple lasting from mid-teens to long term is very slim. I hope that makes sense.... makes sense... but is still pretty fucked..
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nitrousovercast
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Mar 14, 2004 16:47:52 GMT 7
Post by nitrousovercast on Mar 14, 2004 16:47:52 GMT 7
No way. There's a guy in my maths class who looks just like a young Graham Coxon. (Oasis over Blur, never!)
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Mar 14, 2004 18:29:30 GMT 7
Post by stumbleine on Mar 14, 2004 18:29:30 GMT 7
I agree with everyone here. Its about where you are at mentally, not to do your age. Have you tried talking to this guy. Explain your friends are just being silly, get to know him a bit, whilst sussing out whether or not he likes you. And if not, than he's not worth it. There are plenty more fish in the sea.
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nitrousovercast
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Mar 15, 2004 17:09:18 GMT 7
Post by nitrousovercast on Mar 15, 2004 17:09:18 GMT 7
Trust me, he doesn't.
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Mar 16, 2004 11:09:41 GMT 7
Post by stumbleine on Mar 16, 2004 11:09:41 GMT 7
Well then he's missing out on one great chick ...
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nitrousovercast
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Mar 16, 2004 18:12:19 GMT 7
Post by nitrousovercast on Mar 16, 2004 18:12:19 GMT 7
could he care less?
i suppose, the point is that he'd be gone at the end of the year, off to bigger and better things. and that would be it.
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Sept 8, 2005 14:28:11 GMT 7
Post by corgancobain on Sept 8, 2005 14:28:11 GMT 7
i agree with sunky. Maybe also he sees your friend immature for yelling out "he likes you. thats kind of, 12 year old shit. maybe he sees it as- you hang out with immature people, you are immature
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Sept 12, 2005 13:50:26 GMT 7
Post by *Shard of Glass* on Sept 12, 2005 13:50:26 GMT 7
I noticed in a girl who was 20, and I'm 22.
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Sept 12, 2005 14:26:56 GMT 7
Post by rocket on Sept 12, 2005 14:26:56 GMT 7
I mean, I notice 18 year olds, and I'm 24. I've never seen age as a problem, as long as you get along w/the person and nobody's taking advantage of anyone. A lot of the time younger people are more fun anyway!
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